A PRACTICAL PARENT RESOURCE
Beneath the Behaviour
A calm, practical e-book for parents who are tired of guessing whether to validate, hold the line or both. Understand what's really happening underneath yours child's behaviour - and what to do about it, even mid meltdown.
20-page PDF - INSTANT DOWNLOAD - read on any device
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Written by Nicole Dorrington, registered psychologist
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18+ years working with children and families
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Read in one sitting, keep for reference.
"Do I validate the feeling if the behaviour isn't okay?"
"What if talking only makes it worse?"
"They could do it yesterday - why not now?"
"Shouldn't they be able to do this on their by now?"
"Am I making it worse by comforting them?"
"What if my child is neurodivergent"
WHAT'S INSIDE
Twenty pages. No fluff. Nothing to scroll past.
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Three core shifts in how you read your child's behaviour
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A simple in-the-moment path
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Exact phrases to borrow for anger, anxiety, shutdown and teens
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How to repair it when you lose your patience
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A guide to your own triggers, not just your child's
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One page designed to keep on the fridge
WRITTEN BY
Nicole Dorrington
Nicole is a Registered Psychologist with over 18 years of experience supporting children, young people and families — across child and youth mental health, disability services, trauma-informed care and private practice.
Her approach is warm, collaborative and tailored to the individual child, including neurodivergent children and young people. This guide distils the ideas she comes back to again and again in the therapy room, into something you can use at home, today.
"WHY I MADE THIS"
Getting help right now is harder
than it should be
Getting support for children and families is hard right now. Waitlists are long, and finding a psychologist who works with primary-aged children can be difficult.
A big part of my work has always been supporting parents. When parents better understand what is happening for their child, they often feel more confident in how to respond — and that can make a real difference at home.
Over 18 years of working with children, young people and families — and as a parent myself — I’ve gathered together the ideas and strategies I come back to again and again.
I created this guide to make some of that support available sooner — whether you’re waiting for therapy, unsure if therapy is needed, or simply wanting practical ways to better support your child.
It’s deliberately short, practical and easy to come back to when you need it.
Nicole's approach draws on Kim Golding's connection before correction framework - laying the foundation for resilience, self-awareness and lasting relationships
- Nicole Dorrington, Psychologist and Director, PsychInMind - after K. S. Golding (2015) Connection Before Correction
GOOD TO KNOW
Questions Before You Buy.
Is this a replacement for therapy or professional support?
No. It's general parenting information to help with everyday big feelings. If your child's emotions or behaviour are significantly affecting safety, learning or relationships, the guide points you toward seeking individual support.
What format is it, and how do I get it?
A 20-page PDF, delivered instantly after purchase so you can start reading straight away — on your phone, tablet or computer, or printed.
What ages is it written for?
The principles apply across childhood - they're about how behaviour and big feelings work, not a specific age. For stage-by-stage detail (toddlers, primary-aged kids, teens - including things like screens and technology) that's what the full-day workshop goes into.
Can I share it with my partner or co-parent?
Your purchase includes a single-household licence, so everyone in your home is welcome to read it.